Many years ago, I noticed a phenomenon, when someone turned to me, my heart is often very inconsist

Look, you can see the facts: kindergarten toys and more children are more likely to be other children as friends. Well, most kids toys best friend how much? The answer is not sure. If you're like me a chance, also happens to be willing to spend a little effort to talk with the most toys a child, you will soon discover, in his mind, and, like all adults, friends, is divided into "real friends "and" platonic friend. " Below we shall say that most kids toys called "little strong."
I was very curious to wait Xiaoqiang told me who he was "a true friend." Eventually, he told me that only two real friends. One of the boys, the other one is a girl. Then I asked him, "Why do you think the boy is your true friend?" Little strong for a second did not hesitate to tell me, "he never grab my toys, he changed with me." I asked him, "Well, why do you think that girl is your true friend?" This Xiaoqiang hesitated for a while, I will give him in secret after determining, stammered, "said her good-looking, I put all the new toys Give her ...... "I laughed. After a while he asked, "What she think you look good? Xiaoqiang stunned for a moment, eyes innocent," I do not know ...... "I asked," ebsco that she is now in the hands of the toy who is this? "Xiaoqiang suddenly looked very nervous," not mine. "I decided not to ask what the problem was that little girl.
Xiaoqiang perhaps did not realize that the number of toys he owned, making him difficult to encounter from the perspective of the probability of a "fair exchange" because the vast majority of children do not have many toys, or even simply no toys, so there is no chance that the child actually , and he can not afford to be "fair exchange." For him, unfair exchange, equivalent to "grab" nobody likes "robbed." And with him "for" the boy, let Xiaoqiang ebsco feel fair. Xiaoqiang also have what you want but do not have, so he also went to "change" and not to "panic" because he does not like "robbed" ......
Thus, when the so-called "friendship" will slowly die a natural death. I also have to continue, but more likely to be another one waiting patiently under an exchange in order to achieve "fairness." The movie "The Godfather", the coffin shop owner Amerigo. Beaune Seurat determined to find Godfather Corleone outlet for him and seek justice ebsco for his daughter when Amerigo is the "Request ebsco a party." Many years later, The Godfather Corleone finally in a late-night knock on the door of Amerigo ebsco ......
In fact, the living example ebsco of this can be seen everywhere. Even on campus, ebsco the essence of "exchange" does not reflect the less obvious, however, the behavior of the same nature are not uncommon. For example, a department acknowledged genius, will be recognized with another department, another genius ebsco will be "coincidental" to encounter and then become a "buddy." Slang often say, "Great minds think alike", is probably the reason they hit it off, so the conversation between them and any other activity will tend to make them feel each other very much "speculation."
Many years ago, I noticed a phenomenon, when someone turned to me, my heart is often very inconsistent, but is afraid of people that I was called "not mean people", so bite the bullet and do not like to do their own thing. There is a special injured when suddenly ebsco a flash, ebsco would like to see the original essence of this embarrassment I did not come from the "helpfulness" of the character, but from my own energy is not strong enough, no exuberant to more than enough to handle their own affairs, while there is a lot of time and energy to help others to do things - in fact, I simply had to cross the river of mud is being Buddha. Later, I began to wonder whether the leadership of Lei Feng's idiotic, because he did not give his subordinates to allocate enough work. - This is the night with me, one thing is very surprised, because I found I was to think independently.
And those who are not good people often do not know that this seemingly simple truth, they did not even realize that their situation can only make yourself playing "request" role; thus put their every "exchange" have become "no ebsco fair exchange "and ultimately more likely to exchange fall - because who does not like" unfair exchange "; each fall swap, have further contributed to their losses, making ebsco fewer resources than the number they own, that is, lower quality, and further to make she is more likely to become a "taker" eleven vicious cycle, and may even perdition.
Still others, too eager to establish so-called contacts, and total disregard for their own situation exactly how. For such people, ebsco people used some of the words to describe them specifically, "Zhoumei", "curry", "bully on the next pro" or even "clique" and so on. Such people often nor are they necessarily intentionally so. They only dimly aware of their power of one person is too small, so the only hope to help other forces. And one more tiny, the more his desire Chende very strong.
I'm not saying anyone from their side would not care, or that from now on there is no need to deal with anyone ebsco up. Good at dealing with people also need to learn, and it takes a lot of time to practice skills. I just remind you, do not overestimate yourself, there are so many mistakenly think they have enough time to properly handle the relationship between you and everyone around you. Glance at your cell phone address book in the name of it, how many had been no contact over a long time? For so many years, I only saw two or three people said to me, "the longest time no contact, nor more than two weeks . "one is particularly stubborn and special person, his cell phone address book, the total only 22 names.
Bi Shumin once mentioned her own thing: ... I studied psychology courses concerned, purely by chance. XX friend broke his lumbar spine, a cast pants, paralysis Tang Chuangshang March. I wrote the words on their own wall calendar: "XX week to call." When the doctor came, I knew very lonely bedridden patient, hoping to lay a chat. Then I follow the prompts on the calendar, call this person every week, there is a not a gossip. Although I am very busy, still more than a little time to grind, ebsco to make her happy. ebsco Later, once she casually said psychology professor at Chinese University of Hong Kong to Beijing Normal ebsco University with students 林孟平 ...... I asked, I talk to her to learn it? Friends say that do not know. Later, thanks to my friend, I was able to learn psychology, thanks to you and broke his back.
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